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It’s embarrassing for the nervous speaker and it’s embarrassing for the audience - those
awkward, horrible moments when something goes wrong, something embarrassing happens.
They are an experience neither the audience nor the speaker wants to have to endure.
Here are four situations where you can smooth out those embarrassing moments … and a
powerful strategy to use in the future.
1. The mental blank
That terrible moment when someone loses complete track of what they are saying - there is a
blank, their face drops, and then becomes more and more frantic. This is painful not only for the
speaker but for the audience. Develop a strategy now so that if, despite your best preparations,
a blank happens, you have something to say. You could remark, “Oops I’ve lost it” and maybe
you can add some appropriate humour (“Must have left the speech in front of the mirror!”) and
then add something like “Now where was I?” Look at your notes if necessary – “We were talking
about …” If it’s really bad, ask the audience. Whatever strategy you use along these lines, you
keep the audience, and yourself, moving on, returning to target and none of you is
embarrassed. So if you fear the blank moment, be prepared with a strategy that will allow you to
deal smoothly with the situation.
2. The audience is bored
It’s a moment that nervous speakers dread – to realise that most of your audience is bored.
They’re glassy eyed, maybe even falling asleep, chatting or texting on their mobile hones.
Horrors! Worse still and more embarrassing is the presenter who becomes frantic, attempting to
regain attention. Avoid the whole situation if you can by ensuring you have variety wired into
your presentation, and have something up your sleeve that you can move into if necessary.
Introduce a new visual. Involve the audience. Change your stance, body language or walking
pattern. Stop. Stand still. Whatever you use, it will become a smooth, professional piece of your
presentation instead of a situation that embarrasses you and your audience.
3. Dry mouth
Do you have a persistent dry mouth? Then take a glass of water with you. Before the speech,
organise a place to put it and then choose a time where you can drink without interrupting the
flow of your speech. Incorporate this into the planning of your presentation and your
visualisation of your successful presentation. If it does interrupt, then find a way to explain it,
incorporate it, or joke about it.
4. Those other embarrassing physical symptoms
The same applies to anything else you expect might embarrass you or detract from your speech.
If you cannot overcome the physical symptoms in the lead up to the speech, then these are the
ones you need to develop strategies for. And use this same set of tactics for any other
symptoms like blushing or shakes –if they detract from your speech – find a way to explain it,
incorporate it or joke about it.
Then you will have defused any embarrassment that you feel or your audience feels.
In all of these situations where you might make mistakes or have a mishap, there is one
underlying powerful principle that works to avoid embarrassment:
“It doesn’t matter what happens. What matters is how you deal with what happens.”
It really does not matter!. The embarrassment for everyone lies not in the event itself, but in how
you respond to it. So instead of being embarrassed, respond, instead, with professionalism and
confidence. Be as prepared as you can for whatever may arise, and be prepared to explain,
incorporate or joke if something does happen. Then you will have been able to deal with it,
confidently and professionally - without embarassment.
The added bonus? You are reducing your nervousness and increasing your confidence in the
process.
Bronwyn Ritchie has 20 years' experience speaking to audiences and training in public speaking
- from individuals too nervous to say their own names in front of an audience, to community
groups and corporate executives. You can get her free tips, articles, resources and quotations
for your public speaking and presentations in a fortnightly ezine - subscribe to Pivotal Public
speaking - the ezine. Or visit the Pivotal Public speaking web pages.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Bronwyn_Ritchie
awkward, horrible moments when something goes wrong, something embarrassing happens.
They are an experience neither the audience nor the speaker wants to have to endure.
Here are four situations where you can smooth out those embarrassing moments … and a
powerful strategy to use in the future.
1. The mental blank
That terrible moment when someone loses complete track of what they are saying - there is a
blank, their face drops, and then becomes more and more frantic. This is painful not only for the
speaker but for the audience. Develop a strategy now so that if, despite your best preparations,
a blank happens, you have something to say. You could remark, “Oops I’ve lost it” and maybe
you can add some appropriate humour (“Must have left the speech in front of the mirror!”) and
then add something like “Now where was I?” Look at your notes if necessary – “We were talking
about …” If it’s really bad, ask the audience. Whatever strategy you use along these lines, you
keep the audience, and yourself, moving on, returning to target and none of you is
embarrassed. So if you fear the blank moment, be prepared with a strategy that will allow you to
deal smoothly with the situation.
2. The audience is bored
It’s a moment that nervous speakers dread – to realise that most of your audience is bored.
They’re glassy eyed, maybe even falling asleep, chatting or texting on their mobile hones.
Horrors! Worse still and more embarrassing is the presenter who becomes frantic, attempting to
regain attention. Avoid the whole situation if you can by ensuring you have variety wired into
your presentation, and have something up your sleeve that you can move into if necessary.
Introduce a new visual. Involve the audience. Change your stance, body language or walking
pattern. Stop. Stand still. Whatever you use, it will become a smooth, professional piece of your
presentation instead of a situation that embarrasses you and your audience.
3. Dry mouth
Do you have a persistent dry mouth? Then take a glass of water with you. Before the speech,
organise a place to put it and then choose a time where you can drink without interrupting the
flow of your speech. Incorporate this into the planning of your presentation and your
visualisation of your successful presentation. If it does interrupt, then find a way to explain it,
incorporate it, or joke about it.
4. Those other embarrassing physical symptoms
The same applies to anything else you expect might embarrass you or detract from your speech.
If you cannot overcome the physical symptoms in the lead up to the speech, then these are the
ones you need to develop strategies for. And use this same set of tactics for any other
symptoms like blushing or shakes –if they detract from your speech – find a way to explain it,
incorporate it or joke about it.
Then you will have defused any embarrassment that you feel or your audience feels.
In all of these situations where you might make mistakes or have a mishap, there is one
underlying powerful principle that works to avoid embarrassment:
“It doesn’t matter what happens. What matters is how you deal with what happens.”
It really does not matter!. The embarrassment for everyone lies not in the event itself, but in how
you respond to it. So instead of being embarrassed, respond, instead, with professionalism and
confidence. Be as prepared as you can for whatever may arise, and be prepared to explain,
incorporate or joke if something does happen. Then you will have been able to deal with it,
confidently and professionally - without embarassment.
The added bonus? You are reducing your nervousness and increasing your confidence in the
process.
Bronwyn Ritchie has 20 years' experience speaking to audiences and training in public speaking
- from individuals too nervous to say their own names in front of an audience, to community
groups and corporate executives. You can get her free tips, articles, resources and quotations
for your public speaking and presentations in a fortnightly ezine - subscribe to Pivotal Public
speaking - the ezine. Or visit the Pivotal Public speaking web pages.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Bronwyn_Ritchie
Don't Let Your Public Speaking Nerves Embarrass You
By Bronwyn Ritchie
By Bronwyn Ritchie
